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Call to ban additives in children’s medicines

It makes me nauseous that unnecessary additives, such as FOOD COLOURING are being piled into our children’s medicines (drinks&food) only to cause awful side effects. Why do we add these things in the first place! Blog about Moms? Use Bunch to share your blog with more parents. Signup to get more blog followers and comments. Posted by Laura Mccann.

Spanking’s link to bad behavior - not the other way around.

Spanking is in fact one of the worst ways to teach your child discipline. While you would assume it would teach your children to obey you - it’s in fact building resistance and hate toward you. I find it no surprise that researchers found a link between children who’ve been spanked to being more likely to cheating, lying, and disobedience at school. Comment on this post and others you love.
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Posted by Laura Mccann.

Most breast milk bought online is contaminated

Whatever your reasoning for not naturally breastfeeding (choice or circumstances) how could you even consider turning to an “online source” for breast milk? I can’t see how that could possibly be beneficial. Researchers have found a majority or breast milk purchased online contains bacteria, including salmonella! I was lucky enough to naturally breastfeed my children but life isn’t fair and everyone has different circumstances. Whats the best milk substitute you would you advice for replacing breast milk? Comment on this post and others you love.
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Posted by Barbara Moore.

Understanding How Children Develop Empathy - The New York Times

Understanding How Children Develop Empathy - The New York Times

The Overwhelmed Parent

Seven year-old Mark’s mother Lisa sought me out after a talk I had given on “Teaching Children Self Control”. She wanted nothing more than for Mark to have self-control…exhausted from dealing with all the ways in which the youngster could get himself in trouble at home, school and on the playground, she had run out of consequences and punishments to give him. Nothing worked. She asked the question many parents ask, “ Do I have to follow him around everywhere to keep him out of trouble? Why can’t he just follow the rules?” The first thing Lisa (and every harried parent) must do is breathe….deeply. As parents we are familiar with the thoughts that are triggered every time we get one of those calls from a teacher, a coach, a neighbor….it’s my fault, I’m a terrible mother (father), Its my responsibility to fix this, they don’t understand my child, I’ve got to protect him from their insensitivity…and on and on! Taking a deep breath will give you a moment to step back from the chatter in your head. You will notice that much of what has been distressing you is about you… the responsibility, the embarrassment, the self-criticism, and yes the love for your child and your desire to smooth his path everywhere he goes. When we react to our children from this emotional place, our words and actions can be quite counter productive. Instead of solving a problem behavior, we can create shame and confusion that compound the problem and harm the developing self-image. Now the problem becomes the way you relate to each other. Now you can take a more proportionate view of the matter as it concerns your child, and a few things are likely to fall into focus: Childhood is for learning, not for performing. Its the little league, not a World series game. At each stage of childhood, children are working to master all kinds of educational, physical and psychological skills. Its a process that requires much repetition and fine-tuning before it becomes a habit. It takes a coach, not a critic, to teach a child how to play on a team (playground, classroom or home)- clear rules, clear consequences, consistently applied, encouraging (not shaming), appreciating (praise but not over-praise) and not taking things personally. You wouldn’t want a moody, reactive coach for your child, would you? A good coach knows how the game is played…and also understands each child’s preparedness to play. She can figure out what might be getting in the child’s way and suggest different things to try…perhaps more sleep, an eye exam, exercises to improve coordination, better nutrition or meal times, a little pep talk. As your child’s most important coach, its not for you to do her project, hit his home run, make her bed or pick the clothes off his floor. Lisa can’t follow Mark around and make sure he never misbehaves. What she, and you, can do is to start with that deep breath. Then take a step back, as though you are stepping away from all that head chatter, and ask yourself what is getting in your child’s way, and what would be realistic for a child of that age and temperament. Please keep visiting this blog. My intention in writing it is to offer you the resources to be the best coach for your children. You know them better than anyone and I bring my training and experience - professional and personal. It takes collaboration between parents and “experts” – between knowing the particulars of one child and the universal patterns of development and family living – to give each child the best chance to become a secure, balanced, productive and responsible member of society. Comment on this post and others you love.
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Posted by Sunaina J.

Scurvy returns among children with diets ‘worse than in the war’

Officials have claimed wartime diseases are returning because some children are living on junk food diets - which in return are worse for them than rationing was 70 years ago!! Science is finally catching up with the danger of processed foods - sugary junk - takeaways and microwave meals to feed the family. It frustrated me that we’re poisoning our children. Comment on this post and others you love.
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Posted by Kaelyn Marie.

Should we be allowed to choose the sexual orientation of our children?

The real concern I have is I want people to be born into families that want them. On an individual basis I believe that the least amount of suffering we have the better. Comment on this post and others you love.
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Posted by Belle Madison.

The Impact of Trauma on a Child’s Brain

by Gerry Vassar In discussing how children and adults respond to trauma, we have referenced the work of Dr. Bruce Perry. He is a resource and has been a voice internationally in the cause of helping children who have been traumatized. Dr. Perry also has provided information regardingbrain states and the impact of trauma on a child’s brain. This information continues to help us discover the nature and effects of trauma in children. What happens to a child’s brain during trauma? A trauma sears the brain with memories. Trauma for a child can look like the following: - A child can be traumatized through one overwhelming fear-producing event or many events over time. -Trauma can occur when a child is attacked; is physically, sexually or emotionally harmed; observes someone else being harmed; or believes he/she or a significant other is going to be harmed. - A trauma sears the brain with memories, often stored in lower areas. Memories are often less conscious and may involve more somatic, reactive and reflexive responses than conscious ones. -Children whose brains have been traumatized have brain baseline states that are set higher than non-traumatized children. -Traumatized children are less able to achieve a calm brain state, even at rest. -Whenever a trauma-based memory is triggered (smells, sounds, shapes, visual cues, touch, words, gestures) or a child feels at all threatened, he or she can instantaneously revert to a more primitive brain state. -When trauma occurs to a very young child (or girls) the result often isdissociation. Dissociation can be described as: “checking out,” becoming disengaged, shutting down, distancing, feeling as if he/she is “in a play,” or experiencing surrealism, and often having a lowered heart rate. -When the trauma occurs to boys (or older children), the result often ishyper-arousal. Hyper-arousal can be described as being and feeling on edge, acting in ways that are hyper-vigilant, overreactive, volatile, aggressive, and often having a higher heart rate. more via… http://lakesideconnect.com/trauma-and-trauma-informed-care/the-impact-of-trauma-on-a-child%E2%80%99s-brain/ Comment on this post and others you love.
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Posted by Sunaina J.

Stomach aches in kids can be treated with talk therapy

"What we’re teaching kids are techniques that help regulate affect and help regulate stress reactions and help them cope with pain, as well as help them return to their normal activities," he told Reuters Health. You don’t have to be an elementary school teacher to know that kids are constantly whining about "stomach aches". I have a child in my life that complains about stomach aces and I suspect it’s his way of crying for attention. The study looks like this might actually be the case. Comment on this post and others you love.
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Posted by Kaelyn Marie.

For all women who have an overwhelming sense of stress, this is for you.

Robin did a really great job at expressing what sets her off (emotionally) and how she copes with things. If your super stressed over something and don’t know what, how or why I would recommend reading this for some clarification and guidance. This is something I really connected with “It’s a constant lesson for me to always speak my truth and say what I feel because holding it in only makes me uncomfortable, anxious and pretty miserable to be around.” That s*** will drive you crazy. Any advice on how to cope with stress would be appreciated : ) Comment on this post and others you love.
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Posted by Barbara Moore.

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